I’ve been thinking of my dad a lot recently. His birthday is coming up on April 29. It’s a little over two years since he died. The sharp pain of grief has faded with time, and what’s left is a tender ache – along with the love and good memories.

I reflect again on all the kindnesses that were shown at the time of his death. Many people reached out in thoughtful ways… A friend who tuned in and witnessed his crossing and shared a message with us. The friends who sat with me and witnessed my grief. The friends who participated in a very personal memorial service. Several friends who brought food. A friend who painted a picture with an inspirational saying. A friend who sang my dad on his way and then later recorded a CD of the three songs from the funeral for my mom.

If you are struggling right now, please reach out to your friends and let them support you. People care. You are not alone.

If you have a friend who is struggling, reach out to them. Even if you don’t know what to say, let them know you care. Your presence matters.

Love, kindness and compassion matter. You matter.